You’re living with him, and he says he doesn’t want a girlfriend. He wants you to stay over and won’t let you go. For a minute, let’s forget what he wants. What do you want? (Fill in your answer here.) Do you think this man is capable of giving it to you? (Yes or no.) You deserve to be honest with yourself about what you need. Don’t let his wishes become more important than your own. Remember, your happiness matters, too. You have a right to make decisions about your own life.

Depending on the answer above, is it in your best interests to stay in your current situation? If yes, stay where you are. Skip the next question. If no, ask yourself how you can get out of the situation (i.e., move the hell out of his house). (Fill in your answer here.) You do not have to accept a situation that leaves you unhappy. Be clear about what you want, and take your own answer seriously. You are allowed to put your needs first. You are not obligated to wait indefinitely.

Remember, this is your life we’re talking about. It’s not a dress rehearsal, and you don’t get back the time you lose. Make choices that serve you and your future happiness. You cannot make someone want a relationship by staying in his home. His words matter, so listen to what he is telling you. Think about what you want, rather than waiting for him to change his mind. Your time and happiness are worth protecting. You deserve to feel secure. You have the power to choose differently.

What do you want? (Fill in your answer here.) Do you think this man is capable of giving it to you? (Yes or no.) Depending on the answer above, is it in your best interests to stay in your current situation? If no, ask yourself how you can get out of the situation (i.e., move the hell out of his house). Make choices that serve you and your future happiness. You deserve a situation that gives you what you need. I hope this helps. You can take one step at a time. Your future matters.